Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

  • Identify your partner’s use and level of force so that you can assess the risk of physical danger to you and your children are in. Trust your intuition and judgment!
     

  • Identify safe areas of the home where there are no weapons (even kitchen knives), and there are ways to escape. If arguments occur, try to move to those areas.
     

  • Don’t run to where the children are, as your partner may hurt them as well.
     

  • Have emergency 911 phones hidden in your home so if your life is in danger, call 911.
     

  • Teach your children how to get help, and not to get involved in violence between you and your partner. Plan a code word to signal to them that they should get help or leave the room or house.
     

  • Practice how to get out safely even with the children.
     

  • Keep weapons like guns and knives locked away and as inaccessible as possible.
     

  • Start backing the car into the driveway and keeping it fueled. If possible, keep the driver’s door unlocked and others locked, for quick escape.
     

  • Try not to wear scarves or long jewelry that could be used to strangle you.
     

  • If violence is unavoidable, make yourself a small target. Dive into a corner and curl up into a ball with your face protected and heart.